Children are naturally inquisitive, and while you may try to be as open as possible with them, there are certain snippets of information that you simply should not share. From your guilty late-night snacking to details of fights with your partner, there are times when the whole family would benefit if you kept a little secret.
Snacking and Junk Food
In order for children to really thrive, they need the right nutrition, and none of this can be found in junk food. If you are often guilty of late-snacking or the occasional junk food binge, this is something that you need to keep hidden from your children, at least until you have managed to beat that sugar habit for yourself, as it will not be doing you any favors whatsoever. In front of your children, keep up a healthy lifestyle, with snacks that are fresh and nutritious, because this will really help to shape their well-being and eating habits in the future.
Fights with Your Partner
Every relationship has moments of conflict, but, if you get your children involved in this, they will eventually feel as though they need to choose sides, and it will only tear your family up. It will also have a huge impact on the way in which they deal with conflict, as well as their own emotions, in the future, so be sure to never unload all of your problems onto them, and instead help them to understand that brief moments of conflict are absolutely natural.
No matter how much stress you may be under regarding your financial situation, it is simply not fair to burden your children with this. Even if they may have to do without some of the luxuries that all of their friends seem to have, it is much better for them to be protected from financial stress and burden at such a young age. While there is no harm in explaining the situation in brief to help them to understand why you may be cutting back around the house, make sure that you do not scare them or make them feel helpless, keeping a positive tone to every financial conversation you may have with them or around them.
It is common for parents to get together and unload the problems that they may be having with their children, but you must be sure to never share these with your own child. No matter how much trust you may have in them, they are still children and can easily let these secrets slip. It will also discourage them from gossiping, which is something that could definitely benefit them later on in life.
Children deserve to really enjoy, and make the most of, their childhood, but this cannot be done if they are burdened with certain secrets. Whether this may be financial stress or gossip about their friend’s parents, be sure to keep these bits of information under wraps, focussing instead on guiding your child through an emotionally, and physically, healthy childhood.